I'm friends with a couple of exes on Facebook. My wife is too. We have been together since our early/mid twenties, so everything prior was, well, puppy love or first loves, or however you like to remember your past. This select few are also obviously amicable break ups and not anything bloody nor emotionally distressing.
None the less, they are exes and we've moved on to have our own beautiful family. My two exes have also done the same. I cannot say the same about my wife's. I'll leave the "pattern of losers" connection (myself included?) to you kind folks.
I have ignored past "hook ups" for obvious reasons. FB booty calls when you're married is just WAY out of line. And frankly reconnecting with these folks could seriously have a damaging affect on my psyche. While these types of reconnection could be humorous, I'm not down.
So today I received a friend request from an ex's mother. OK, I'm friends with my Mother on Facebook. I'm friends with my Mother-in-Law too. There are even a few Mother's of my friends on there (fine, insert Eddie Haskell joke here). THIS, is pushing it. While we dated, it there were no animosities, but afterward, I don't recall having a "healthy" relationship with this lady. I'm sure she's well intentioned...in the "I was another maternal figure in this young man's life" kind of way. But it's just too weird for me.
What do you think? Would your spouse even allow the other friends? Where do you draw the line? Acquaintance? Coworker? Current/Former Authority Figures (Bosses/Teachers/Counselors)? Friend of a Friend? Nowhere?